Those of you who know me well know that I am obsessed with turtles. I mean OBSESSED. This started about a year ago, and I don't know why. Funny, huh? But I love them. I love them so much when I went on a cruise earlier this year I saw turtle merchandise everywhere and went absolutely crazy. Picture the dogs on the movie "Up", all of a sudden yelling "Squirrel!" and looking off into the distance. That was me. And, ahem, it still is. Whenever I see something with a turtle, my attention deviates from whatever I am doing and from my lips the word "Turtle!" is thrust out, like my vocal cords have a will of their own. (Apologies to friends whom I've been in conversation with when this has occurred, I really was paying attention to you).
Friday, August 30, 2013
Turtle Power!
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Change Your Life. All it Takes is a Click.
Last November I went to a fireside where the guest speaker was accomplished LDS singer Hilary Weeks. I was so excited to hear her sing and speak and was pleasantly surprised with the message she shared. I'll narrow it down for you. She talked about the power of our thoughts and how they shape the way we see and live our lives.
She had heard someone say that we think over 300 negative thoughts and to see if that was true she bought a clicker and started counting, every day for one week. At the end of that week she was "discouraged, gloomy and depressed" from counting all of those discouraging, gloomy and depressing thoughts! Who could blame her?!? She wondered what would happen if she did the opposite and counted all the good thoughts she had. Would that in turn make her feel good? She tried it and found that yes, it would!
She wondered how long it would take to get to 1 billion clicks with other people on board, and that is where the Billion Clicks movement began. Hilary and her husband set up a website and business organization to which more people are joining the ranks daily, tracking and reporting how many clicks they have. The goal here is obvious: change you life, let's get to 1 billion clicks. I love the slogan:
After than initial fireside in which I heard Hilary speak, I wanted to go out the next day and start this experiment for myself, buying my own clicker. But...I didn't, although the thought stayed in my mind for quite some time. Well, I am here to say that I have officially joined the Billion Clicks movement. All it took was purchasing a clicker, signing up online and making the commitment to actively work on thinking good thoughts and tracking them. All it takes is a click.
Will you like to learn more about or join the Billion Clicks movement? Click on this link to do so, all it takes is a click : )
http://www.billionclicks.org/
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
Becoming and Overcoming
How do we get through our trials, and not just squeak by, but grow and become more than we were before?
That's the 100 million dollar question in this day and age. Allow me to share two different approaches. These come from a talk given by Carol Wilkinson at BYU that my mother shared with me a few years ago. It helped me change the way I was responding to my challenges the first time I read it. It did so again when it fell out of a folder that I had taken out from my memory box a couple of weeks ago.
In her speech, Carol explains the following:
Our Father in Heaven wants us to become like Him, and in so doing He wants us to overcome the world and influence of Satan. Difficulties in life allow us to find out how much we need the divine strength and love of our Father. As we reach out to God, we can find and experience His goodness and want to be like Him. Satan also wants us to be like him-evil and miserable-and so he seeks to overcome us and thwart us. Elder Henry B. Eyring said, "The great test of life is...not to endure storms, but to choose the right while they rage."
As difficulties come into our lives, there are two ways to approach them. The first leads to allowing yourself to be influenced and overcome by Satan. It consists of not exhibiting any faith, ignoring spiritual promptings, and refusing to seek for divine help and instead relying on your own abilities. When difficulties come and they're not resolved quickly, you may just feel extremely irritated.
It consists of the following steps.
Step 1: Your plan is thwarted; you become baffled and questioning
Step 2: Faith doesn't bring the desired results; you become hurt and doubtful
Step 3: You set conditions
Step 4: Your desire is not met; you become angry, bitter and rebellious
The second approach leads to overcoming the world and the influence of Satan through having faith in Christ. With this we are obedient, plead for help and exhibit faith.
It consists of the following steps:
Step 1: Your plan is thwarted; you trust God and ask different questions.
Things are not going according to your plan. You don't understand why things are going wrong. You know Heavenly Father could solve the problem, as He is omnipotent. Yet you don't know the meaning of all things, so, remembering times when He has come through for you in the past, you decide to absolutely trust in God.
Step 2: Faith doesn't bring desired results; you ask for strength
When your faith doesn't bring the results you desire and you struggle with the trial, your need to ask for strength. I love that she doesn't say that your should pray for strength, but that you need to, you must pray for strength. This is so important, and I realized that it was okay for me to pray for strength, in fact, that Heavenly Father wanted to give it to me, I just needed to ask for it.
Step 3: You are not consumed with the trial; you focus on the good things in your life
Focus on the good things in your life, not what you don't have. Choose to be happy. This puts our happiness in our own court, for I do believe that to a certain extent, how we feel is our choice.
Step 4: You consecrate your life to God; you draw closer to Him
Continue to feast on the word of God and have faith. Be willing to spend more time with God; desire it with all your heart. Make the time to pray fervently while being willing to submit to His will, serve Him by serving others, spend time in meaningful meditation, and attend the temple with a worshipful attitude.
Shining individuals who are sensitive to others who are struggling-sensitive because of he pain they've felt, which helps them know better how to succor others-mirror in a very small way the way Christ succors us. Ultimately, through this process, we can become one with Him and our Father. So we become like Him and then overcome the world through faith in our Savior.
I think it is imperative that we realize that Satan is the one influencing us to choose approach number 1. Here's a good question to ask yourself when you are going through, well, anything: Whose agenda is this supporting? If we are angry with the Lord because of what's going on in our lives, we are supporting Satan's agenda; we are giving in to him, exactly what he wants! I hope that in responding to our trials we will each choose to have faith, trust in our Father in Heaven absolutely, ask for strength, focus on the good, and draw closer to Him.
Lots of Love,
Sunday, February 24, 2013
"Lessons from Liberty Jail"
I first heard of Elder Jeffrey R. Holland's address "Lessons from Liberty Jail" when it was in the Ensign a few years ago. It was the balm that my troubled soul needed, really the perspective the Lord knew I needed that I hadn't received until that point. I'd had a hard time accepting messages from the scriptures, the brethren and loved ones that "bad things happen to good people", "You aren't living wrong and being punished with problems," and that "All these things shall work together for your good". I hated hearing things like that because I couldn't believe them, no matter how hard I tried. I saw in hindsight that it's not that I couldn't, but rather wouldn't believe, my heart and mind were not ready for that quite yet. The Spirit didn't have easy access to my heart because it was so hardened.
Sunday, February 17, 2013
For Good
I have been thinking a lot the past couple of weeks about what good I'm doing here in this life right now. I want to help others in this life, and be an influence for good, not for myself, but for the benefit of others. That is the purpose of this blog, one that Sarah and I consider a sacred obligation the Lord has entrusted to us. But I have been questioning if I am actually being an influence for good, one that can be felt and is in turn helping others. I don't do it for recognition or applause, but to spread the love of God to others. Sometimes I think we all have ambitions to do great things that will have an effect on a very grand scale. Think Mother Teresa or Gandhi. We want to change the world, instead of just affecting those in our social circle or city. We feel useless when we compare our efforts and abilities to those who are well known the world over for their good deeds.
It is at these times I have to remember the scripture, "And thus we see that by small and simple means the Lord can bring about great things." 1 Nephi 16:29
Mother Teresa said "We can not all do great things. But we can do small things with great love." I believe that the small and simple things we do with great love do influence others, and that one good thing will trickle down from one person to another to another, creating a ripple effect that will influence thousands to millions of people. We may not see the fruits of our labors, but that does not mean that they aren't there.
I have thought about the song "For Good" from the play "Wicked" when it comes to this, especially because of some circumstances that occurred in my life the past 6 months. The experience I speak of is personal and I will not go into great detail here, but I know I cannot express myself more adequately unless I explain some. But first, in order to do so, here are the lyrics to "For Good" and a link so you can listen to it for yourself:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQJaZO2nfGg
GLINDA:
I've heard it said,
That people come into our lives
For a reason
Bringing something we must learn.
And we are lead to those
Who help us most to grow if we let them.
And we help them in return.
Well, I don't know if I believe that's true
But I know I'm who I am today
Because I knew you.
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun,
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood.
Who can say if I've been changed for the better
But because I knew you.
I have been changed for good.
ELPHABA:
It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime.
So, let me say before we part:
So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you.
You'll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart.
And now whatever way our stories end
I know you'll have rewritten mine
By being my friend.
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea.
Like a seed dropped by a sky bird
In a distant wood.
Who can say if I've been changed for the better
But because I knew you...
GLINDA:
Because I knew you...
BOTH:
I have been changed for good.
ELPHABA:
And just to clear the air
I ask forgiveness
For the things I've done,
You blamed me for.
GLINDA:
But then,
I guess,
We know there's blame to share.
BOTH:
And none of it seems to matter anymore.
Like a comet pulled from orbit
(Like a ship blown from its mooring)
As it passes a sun.
(By a wind off the sea)
Like a stream that meets a boulder
(Like a seed dropped by bird)
Halfway through the wood.
(In the wood)
Who can say if I've been changed for the better.
I do believe I have been changed for the better.
GLINDA:
And because I knew you...
ELPHABA:
Because I knew you...
BOTH:
Because I knew you
I have been changed...
For good.
I felt a very strong pull towards this person in a way I can only describe as unexplainable and know that it came from Heavenly Father. This person was going through a hard time and didn't feel like a good person. I never doubted this person's goodness, not once. As a matter of fact, I knew they were extremely good because I had a significant experience early on in which the Lord told me that this person was good. I don't take that word lightly. Good was everything. I saw this persons divine potential more I think than they did, more than I have ever seen anyone else's.
This person said I was helping them "get back onto the straight and narrow." I believed more than I ever have in my life that I was in someones life for a specific purpose. I never viewed them as a "project" or someone that I was trying to change. Everything I did and was was because I cared about them. All I did was be myself.
A few weeks ago my relationship with this person came to a close, which has been very hard but there in no bitterness in it. As it did come to a close, the pull I felt towards this person disappeared as quickly as it had come. As I have been trying to come to terms with what happened and why, I have come to some conclusions. Like the song says, I believe that both this person and I came into each other's lives for a reason, that we were lead to each other and both grew in return. It well may be that we will never meet again in this lifetime, but part of me is made from what I learned from them, and I think they would say the same.
It was only after my bishop, Bishop Newton, talked today in church about our ability to influence for good that I felt completely at peace with the situation with the friend I talked about above. He said that we may never know the influence we have for good, but that doesn't mean in isn't there. When we see the divine potential in others around us, we can help then rise to that potential. He suggested we think of when we are standing before the Lord in judgement and he opens in a vision of what influence we had on others throughout our lifetime. Imagine what we will learn of what really happened because of the "small things with great love" that we did.
I am eternally grateful that I had opportunity to have been changed for good.
You are never alone
Let's face it, life is hard. Tough. Sometimes outright brutal. It is during those hard times that we often feel God has abandoned us, that He doesn't seem to care that we are suffering, sometimes mercilessly. We feel small and insignificant to Him, a father with an infinite number of children. He has so many, how can He really be paying attention to me?
I testify to you that He does know each of us, individually. He loves you unconditionally, and He cares about what you are going through more than you can even imagine. I know this because I have seen and felt his hand in my own life, especially during the challenging times. Those of you who know me well know that I have lived with chronic pain for 12 years, a daily trial that never sees relief. To say that it has been H-E-double-hockey-sticks is a gross understatement. I admit that I went through times when I didn't think Heavenly Father was there or that He cared for me at all, that I was completely alone. I was angry, depressed, and about as bitter as someone could be. But through some turning points and opening my heart to Him, I recognized that He had been with me all along, in every single detail of the long, hard road called my life. There are still times where I feel down but I do not doubt that God knows me and has not left me comfortless. He is always there for me.
I read an article on the Deseret News website about Al Fox, a young woman who converted to the LDS church in 2009. She has since started her own blog and produces videos that share her testimony. I want to share with you today a video of hers that expresses some of what I feel in my heart about us never being alone. I hope you enjoy it and that is speaks to your heart too. Thank you, Al Fox...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRjEMomhJdw
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Unhappy? Release Your Inner Child and Play
Look at the pictures above. Do you remember what life was like as a child when you hardly had any worries or concerns, heartbreak lasted only a few hours, you could run around all day long like the energizer bunny, and the cold and snow didn't bother you because you were playing in it with your best friends? When life seemed simpler and so care free? When you couldn't wait to grow up and be the best teacher, firefighter or actor there has ever been? When you felt like the best days were ahead or you as a "big person"?
It was a night of total joy that left us refreshed and simply happy :)
And last weekend I got to play with my Grant family at our annual winter party at my uncle's cabin...snowmobiling baby!!!!! I LOVE snowmobiling!!! I was so excited to get out of the smoggy valley and into the crisp mountain air and zip around in a wide open field at 50-60 miles an hour on one of the greatest machines ever made. In our family we don't just ride snowmobiles, we catch Frisbees and footballs, pull tubes and do, as the men call it, "Time trials" to beat the clock from one end of the field to the other. The exhilaration you feel slicing through open powder can only be compared, in book, to galloping on a horse. Oh the FREEDOM!!!
So while life goes on the daily grind grinds you down, take the time to play. Plop into the snow and make a snow angel, dance in the rain, sing aloud to your favorite song with your windows down in the car, play with a nephew or niece, take a day trip, watch a Disney movie or whatever it is that makes you feel joy the way you did when you were young. God wants you to be productive and successful, but above all He wants you to be happy. So go ahead, release your inner child. If anyone has a problem with that, tell them Robyn says it's okay :)